According to the 75 Year Longitudinal Grant and Glueck studies, led by George Vaillant and Sheldon Glueck, “Good relationships keep us happier and healthier.”
One of the most important relationships we have is our relationship with our partner. Thus, it is important to know if the kind of relationship we have is healthy or not.
The 22 Colors team has come up with a guide to help you determine whether your relationship is healthy or if some areas need to be improved.
1. You trust each other.While some people are in constant fear of being cheated on, you and your partner trust each other so much that you don’t need to check each other’s phones or social media accounts. You are 100% confident that your partner is faithful to you.
2. You don’t play games.Some people like making their partners jealous, perhaps to boost their ego or to spice things up. However, couples who are in a healthy relationship don’t feel the need to play games. They don’t try to trick each other into thinking something fishy is going on when there isn’t.
3. You are most comfortable with each other.You can just sit back and relax and be yourself when you’re with your partner. There is no need to pretend to be someone else. No need to be prim and proper. You accept each other for who you are, and you’re not afraid to let your hair down.
4. You want the same things in life.You may have different interests, but you basically have the same goals. Maybe you both want to wait before having kids, or you both want to raise your kids in the suburbs. You have similar life goals and that’s very important.
5. You are very open to each other.You can talk about anything. And I mean anything. There is no need for filters. You can openly discuss money issues or annoying relatives. You don’t need to tiptoe around each other when you talk about sensitive matters.
6. You have your alone time.You look forward to spending time together as a couple. You don’t neglect each other just because of your busy schedules. It could get tricky when there are children involved, but a lot of couples manage to still have their alone time, even if it’s just for a couple of hours every month.
7. You share the load.You help each other out at home. You do chores together. You don’t allow your partner to do everything for you because if you do, that could cause your partner to resent you. Doing household chores together is also a way of bonding with your partner.
8. You are each other’s number one fan.You support each other, no matter what. You encourage each other especially during tough times. When one has a new project, the other one is there to cheer him or her on. The saddest fate that could befall anyone who’s in a relationship is to have an unsupportive partner.
9. You have a deep emotional connection.You are bound by an emotional connection that no one can sever. Your partner should be the first one you call when something worries you. He or she should also be the first one to hear about your new promotion.
10. You talk to each other in a respectful manner.
You and your partner talk and not shout at each other. Your tone is not sarcastic. You don’t say mean and degrading things to each other even when you argue. You talk about your problems in a calm manner and you don’t resort to ad hominem attacks.
Experts say that deep emotional connection with someone other than your spouse or partner is tantamount to cheating. In a Woman’s Day article by Denise Schipani, Peggy Vaughan, author of The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs defines emotional infidelity as “an emotional connection with someone of the opposite sex that you keep a secret from your spouse. ”